Connect First
How do you approach your spouse when you first see them after a day away from one another?  Do you
seek out your spouse greeting him or her with enthusiasm?  Or are you one who “does your own thing”
and your spouse discovers you at home?  In my experience personally and as a therapist who has seen
hundreds of troubled marriages, my advice to you is to connect first.  Connecting first means purposefully
on the computer, watching TV, or taking a rest.  Find your spouse, greet with affection, ask him or her on
the computer, watching TV, or taking a rest.  Find your spouse, greet with affection, ask him or her about
their day, and be interested.  You can rest, play, watch, and read later.  
Though not all your marriage issues will be resolved, greetings and partings are some of the most
frequent and important interactions you will have with your spouse.  Most couples do greetings and
partings well naturally early in their marriage.  After several years though, we sometimes assume that our
spouses no longer need special attention.  Not true!  We all need special