Marriage Helpers by James T. Berry, Ph.D.
Close Your Exits
This does not mean you can’t have space when needed. It does mean that you accept your connection to
and commitment to your spouse. Take your anxiety about this to God and lean on Him for the strength to
walk through this.
You are both Bad and Good
When you are tempted to see your spouse as all bad, remember your own badness and the grace that
you have received from God and others. Then you will be better able to extend grace to your imperfect
spouse and to see the good in him or her.
Do not assume that your memory of any event is absolutely cor